by Denise Harris | Jan 11, 2018 | Coaching, Empowerment, Strength
Mission North Star might be your answer! January is a natural time for reflection. A shiny new year is upon us, ripe with possibilities and the opportunity to set fresh new goals. It’s also time to look back at the previous year and assess what worked and what didn’t. Perhaps you were working with a professional coach but the results were less than you expected. You may have had lofty goals for 2017 and yet, you find yourself wondering where the last year went. If you did not achieve long-term objectives, it may be time to change coaches.
You do not shrink from a challenge. You are determined to do the work, invest in yourself and take a leap forward in 2018. But it can be difficult to know where to start. I know the feeling and I can tell you that the coach you choose can make a huge difference. After years of working in Corporate America, I decided to take the plunge and pursue my own dream of becoming a certified executive leadership coach. By working with many professional women over the years, I understand the challenges and opportunities women face in today’s business environment and the steps necessary to make real and meaningful change. Executive coaching is an investment in yourself – and your future.
As a result of my experience working with professional women, I’ve developed a signature program designed to accelerate results! If you’ve been less than thrilled with the coaching you’ve had thus far, consider signing up for Mission North Star. This program is designed for YOU – a high achieving woman with an executive role in an organization. Mission North Star gives you the unique opportunity to work through some of the toughest challenges you face – and do so in a safe, comfortable environment.
What do you have to gain? Successful leaders know that they can benefit from outside insight. A fresh, new perspective and a shift in mindset are just a few of the benefits you’ll see when you work with me. Here’s what else you can expect:
- You’ll learn how to make your ideas a reality.
- You’ll receive personal attention from someone who gets to know you and your goals.
- You’ll have someone who supports you and guides you forward through tough decisions and seemingly insurmountable walls.
- We’ll work together to define your goals and objectives and an accountability structure that works for you.
- You’ll hear unbiased opinions.
- You’ll gain a trusted confidante.
- You’ll build personal and professional resilience.
- You’ll go outside your comfort zone!
As a professional, you know that change doesn’t happen overnight and it takes time and commitment. Mission North Star is your map to the highest levels of success. It’s a six month program that works. We’ll travel this journey together.
Like any relationship, finding a person you can trust takes a leap of faith. If you’ve worked with a coach before and didn’t experience the results you wanted, you weren’t working with the right coach. When you’re working with me, the future should seem brighter and the path to realize your dreams should be clear and compelling. Let’s make 2018 the year where you accomplish your goals and redefine your story.
I look forward to working with you.
Denise
by Denise Harris | Apr 27, 2017 | Coaching
Being your true self Is the most effective formula for success, in anything you do. That affirmation reinforces my desire to live life on my own terms every day, and continue moving forward in this world of uncertainty.
Jim Rohn said “Don’t let your learning lead to knowledge. Let your learning lead to action”.
On April 21st, I had the amazing opportunity to attend the SUCCESS Live conference in Dallas, TX.
I heard from outstanding thought leaders like Brendon Burchard, TD Jakes, Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes and so many more.
Here are six of the most important life strategies that I walked away with:
1) High performance is not correlated with age, gender, nationality, intelligence, personality, strengths or creativity. High performance comes from your desire to succeed beyond standard forms consistently over the long term.
2) Do what you believe in, and apply yourself without limitations. Raise your ambitions. Never limit your vision for your future, based on today
3) Passion, Energy & Enthusiasm moves you forward. Developing good habits keeps your momentum going.
4) The only thing that should be stable on the ride to success is you.
5) You are designed for success but life happens, and introduces us to failures. Honor the struggle.
6) Courage is required, then you build confidence. Your dream has to be bigger than your fear.
I would love it if you would share with me, anything from this list that resonates with you, and gives you the inspiration and momentum to take action today.
You can email me at denise@everythingemile.com.
by Denise Harris | Mar 31, 2017 | Coaching
It’s challenging for most of us to rise above our own excuses and move out of our comfort zone. It can feel impossible to do, and it doesn’t help when self-doubt moves in and clouds our thoughts. However, you can conquer self-doubt and accomplish what you really want in your life.
Living the life you want, doesn’t mean you have to completely abandon all of the things you are comfortable with. After all, you’ve gotten to where you are today, by doing many of those things. The very first step in creating something new for yourself, is recognizing that you have a desire to experience something different and be okay with it. No judgement, just awareness.
When we allow ourselves to dream and think of all the things we want to do, three very common emotions tend to show up, and attempt to throw us off track.
First, the chatter from our inner-critic, weighs in, and convinces us, whatever big idea or thoughts we’re having about creating a change in our lives is crazy, because we aren’t ready, and it’s not worth being uncomfortable.
Second, our ego does a drive-by and reminds us, of all the folks out there who are going to be judging or criticizing our actions, and just like that, creativity and happiness are thrown out the door.
And third, lack of confidence and belief in yourself, will completely blow out any flame of possibility.
Does this sound familiar to you? Inner Critic, ego and lack of confidence are all close-knit family members who want to get in your head, and destroy any effort you make to experience the level of success, happiness and freedom you really want for yourself.
Now that you know you’re likely to have some unwelcome thoughts you can be prepared to conquer them straight away.
6 Ways to Silence Your Inner Critic and Crush Self Doubt
1.Be disruptive!
Find a way to disrupt your daily pattern and be okay with it. Consider new and different ideas to accomplishing your goals. Think how disruptive Uber, Netflix & PayPal were to their industries.
For example, if you’re trying to drop a few pounds, it might mean getting up an extra 30 minutes earlier in the morning, so you can work out. Maybe it means partnering with a nutritionist to find out the best ways to reduce your weight and get back in shape.
The first step is aligning your goal with an impact-action that moves you closer to the finish line.
2.Be around people who understand what you want to accomplish and are supportive
Becoming part of a new community can expose you to ideas and resources that you may have never considered before, and you might find that, getting to what you want isn’t nearly as challenging as you may have originally thought. Now is a good time to consider working with a mentor, or hiring a coach. You might consider joining a mastermind, or become a part of an organization. Partnering with the right support can breathe life into your efforts and replace that sense of dread with a sense of possibility.
3.Trust yourself
Leverage the wins that you have already had in your life and know that you are capable. Be willing to give yourself a chance. Connect with yourself and be patient. Small, steady steps, can lead to big progress.
4.Be okay with making a mistake
Making mistakes are normal, and every mistake you make is an opportunity to learn a valuable lesson and to consider what changes need to be made, and what different approaches you can take. Look at your mistakes as directional signals, that are alerting you to go in a different direction, or try a new approach.
5.Be afraid and do it anyway
Don’t let fear get in the way of achieving your goals and living the life that you want. Make space for your fear, know that it’s there, and move forward anyway. Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Big Magic, says Fear, is allowed to have a seat, but not allowed to vote, and not allowed to drive. It’s okay to be afraid, and definitely normal, when you’re trying something new, just do it anyway.
6.Work with a Coach
Working with a coach can help you develop the mindset you need to be successful and get past any blocks that get in your way. Whenever you experience change or try something new, it’s like exercising a muscle you haven’t used, and it can take a little practice and time to get used to. Having support around you can make a huge difference in helping you reach your end goal and live your dream.
This small action will make a huge difference in ensuring that you move forward with the positive changes you want to make in your life.
by Denise Harris | Feb 7, 2017 | Coaching
“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
~ Mahatma Ghandi ~
Do you ever find yourself pondering the question “What do I want in life?”. Many of us are afraid to ask ourselves that question, for fear that we have no idea, or no clue what we want. You might not even know where to begin to answer that question for yourself. Instead, you may choose to either drift along and play small, or move so fast, that you don’t give yourself the time or space to reflect on what you really want out of life.
Do you remember back in the day, when you were ten years old, and an adult asked you, what do you want to be when you grow up, your immediate response, without much thought was “I want to be a lawyer, or a doctor, or a rock star when I grow up”. Whatever your choice was, it was easy to dream big back then. No worries about judgment or criticism, or whether you would have enough money to fund your education. You simply just let possibility be the driver.
Are you willing to take a step back and recreate that mindset for yourself today, and explore the possibilities of what you want out of your life, right now, right here? I am going to share with you six steps that will help you land on what you want and move you in the direction of living forward.
1-Figure out what you need to make you happy.
This may sound easy, but it really isn’t. Slow yourself down and give some thought to what you need to make you happy. Is it financial freedom? love in your life? more time with your family? more balance between work and play? owning your own business?….etc. Grab a notebook, or pull up a blank page on your PC, and start jotting down a list of all the things that would make you happy. Once you have your list begin prioritizing them and give some thought to how you can create action behind each one.
2-Determine what really bothers you.
Figure out what upsets you and be specific about it. Don’t just say you hate your job, be clear about what you don’t like about your job. Is it your micro managing manager, or the unclear metrics that your performance is measured by? Is it, your meaningless workload? or all of the above. Once you’ve gotten clear on what you don’t like, the next step is to figure out what you’re going to do about it. Many of us get stuck right here. The reality is, if you want to find out what you want in life, you’ve got to be willing to fight for it, and be committed to changing the things that you don’t want. Your level of commitment to having the life you want has to be higher than your resistance.
People who get what they want tend to be the ones who make the effort to know what they want.
-Martha Beck
3- Create a Life Plan.
One of the most helpful ways to get what you want is to create a plan. Begin with the end in mind, and think about the vision you have for yourself. Get clear on what your goals are and put them down in writing. Get as specific as you can about the actions you need to take to accomplish your goals. Establish milestones and a timeline for yourself, and evaluate your progress and celebrate your wins.
4-Get Support.
It can be challenging to move out of your comfort zone and live in the area of possibility, and do it alone. It can be very rewarding to get a coach and get that push that you may need, or stretch your imagination in ways that allow you to see yourself in that dream job, or as a successful entrepreneur. Talking about what you want with a coach who can support you can help you think of new ideas, or resources that you may not have thought about. Working with a coach can help you remove hidden limitations you may have been applying to yourself.
5-Stay positive.
Having a positive mindset can make all the difference in accomplishing what you want. Believe that you’re practically 90% there, with the right attitude. Don’t get discouraged, just stay the course and be vigilant. Getting what you want out of life takes courage, commitment and confidence. Surround yourself with like-minded people and stay inspired.
6-Put Yourself First.
I know that may sound selfish but sometimes you just have to put yourself first. Ask yourself, if you weren’t tied down by a job, family or friends, what would you be doing right now? Remember, you only get one life, so make the most out of it and live life on your own terms. There’s always a way to get what you want. You just have to start by first knowing what you want. With clarity comes unstoppability.
Please feel free to share any additional tips in the spaces below that you think might help others in finding out what they want in life. I’d love to hear about what has worked for you.
Thanks for reading this post, if you enjoyed it, or it helped you in any way, I’d love to hear about it in the comment section below.
